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Originally posted by NuQueen04
Ok, I agree wholeheartedly with The Diva Principle... I've read that one, Single Sassy and Satisfied, and the Power of Being a Woman....
I will definately look into Joshua Harris. Thanks.
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I think Joshua Harris' book is fine for folks under 25 years old... It just was too late for those in my age group, in my opinion...
Appreciation of your singleness has to be developed spiritually, mentally and physically. That is very tough to do when you have explored your sexual self without knowing yourself.
I think for African American women, I like Iyanla Vanzant's "In the Meantime"... That crosses all age groups... I also think several fictional books written by African American women writers from long ago expands the Christian perspective of being solaced in your singleness... One book that comes to mind is Gloria Naylor's "Mama Day"...
However, I have not pursued an actually "How too" book on dealing with the solitude of singleness from a Christian perspective...
The closest I have gotten that I am currently reading comes from Reverend Gary Chapman's "Covenant Marriages"... In fact, anything from Gary Chapman, his wife or from Real Relationships website is very productive in building your mind to be solid in your singleness, yet allowing God to prepare your life for your spouse...
I have some issues with the, "Her Needs and His Needs" book... I thought that the writer is sexually repressed and was trying to justify the "having buck wild sex" in a marriage is SOLE responsibility of the wife... That concept I have a strong Spiritual disagreement... I thought dude needed Viagra, Cialis or Levitra or something, 'cuz he was coming across as if he's impotent or shall I say, "preferred something more wicked"... I had to let the book go...
But all in all, I think the Chapman's are highly trained marriage, couples couselors and with therapeutic experiences along with a divinity degree that comes with a wisdom that is God and Spirit led--to me, that is strongly Christian-based... And if you are older than 25, I say start with the first book--"5 Love Languages"...
If you are younger than 25, and still in that "teen Spirit" phase of thinking guys are cute, then honey, stay with Joshua Harris... He uses younger language that kids relate to these days...
But as Joshua gets older, his writing style and knowledge along with experience in life will start to change and it will be obvious in his books...