[pinkyphimu]

i am not sure that there really is a solution. i am sure there are several members who would say it took two rounds of recruitment before they were given a bid (think about blazercheer). maybe we should start encouraging pnms to ask their friends honestly if they have a chance to get a bid. when i was in school, a girl went through rush, got cut; cobed twice, got cut; rushed again, got cut...then asked if she should try cob again. she was only focused on one house and finally some people who were her friends and also in the house told her that it wasn't a good idea because she wouldn't get a bid. they didn't say, oh well at our last selection session we didn't think that your gpa was high enough, etc., just that as her friends, they didn't think she should try again. she moved on and got involved in other activities.