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It sounds like your previous office was too close. Too personal. Three women that liked each other a lot working together.
I wouldn't say you are whining, you sound like you are venting.
The thing is, what you are venting about is personal perceptions that normally would be immaterial to work matters.
You can hate your boss, what does that have to do with your job performance? Do you work less well if you had a personal conflict at home?
Some of the most successful people in the world are terrors to work for.
You need to focus on your own job performance and let the rest of it flow off your back.
You need to be less sensitive to the moods and behaviors of the people around you.
This is work. This is not a clique of friends, and a lot of what you are saying applies more to personal relationships.
I am trying to think how I would respond if I someone we hired came up to me and said, I joined the company cause I adored my last boss, I hate my new boss and it makes me unhappy . . . in fact I wouldn't have signed under this boss . . .
Your post screams: I am very inexperienced with life, and I have difficulty controlling my emotions. I am not trying to insult you with that, but beware thats how any experienced person is going to read your reactions.
That perception is not important here, but thats vital in the work place.
Many of us work come in on weekends. Many of us have cancelled important personal things for work related events on no notice. Many of us have worked with unpleasant people and just smiled. Many of us have watched others excercise privelages we don't have and maybe don't approve.
But we learn to soldier on. We learn that people have an extremely limited ability to affect us emotionally. We learn that we don't have to like the people we work with.
And most of all we learn to focus on our own work and improving it.
It is never an excuse to say that your work performance is suffering because . . . you don't like someone or the way they treat you.
And if your work performance is not suffering . . . your like or dislike is irrelevant.
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