Well, spouses generally aren't covered under the dating rules, but I wonder if they would be counted as Legacies. I actually did something *worse* in that regard than brothers dating pledges. I dated a petitioner/pledge/brother (she was a Petitioner, but in the pledge class that didn't make the charter application) while I was the sectional staff (this section was DC & Maryland) representative to the Petitioning Group. After we started dating, the sectional chair changed what group I was representative to. There is now a no dating rule at the Region (DC,MD,VA, NC) level of staff to undergrads because of me.
It did end badly of course, we've been married for almost 10 years and have 3 children.
(APO - Petitioning Group = Other Greeks - Colony).