ACK!
I'm answering -- I am not married currently, though I am divorced-- so---
The Rules are a bunch of BS.
I agree with much of the post above.
Relationships are 50/50
Often they don't call because they are intimidated, don't think we're interested, lost the #, etc.
I think the Rules puts too much game playing into the already difficult proposition of finding and sustaining a relationship.
Be yourself. Be confident. Know what you want from life, from yourself, from others.
Be honest. Have fun. Communicate. These are the rules you should follow to be happy and when YOU are HAPPY, you will attract more people.
I am a fan of going with the flow, responding to the emotion of the moment. If you feel like calling him--CALL--if he likes you, he'll be stoked--if he doesn't--you won't have changed his opinion at all and you'll know and can leave it behind.
Just be yourself and don't worry about it so much. Its a cliche, but its true--it happens when you're not even looking.
To me the Rules amounts to women 'tricking" men into a relationship. And in no way do we want that. We want to be with someone who values us for us in the way we value them for them, etc.
[This message has been edited by amycat412 (edited August 22, 2001).]
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