My what-if is slightly different.
What if I had joined the other local sorority on campus that I really liked (even better than the one I ended up joining!)? I actually would have been happier. But if I had joined that sorority I would not have found AOII because I could have been a more active alum (and just kept in touch with sisters) and would have not pursued AI.
Things definitely work out for a reason and I'm SO happy to have AOII!!
As a side note to the rushing at my undergrad school, back in the day it wasn't really formal rush - more of a COB-formal hybrid (you had rounds but no cutting so you had to go to all 4 groups). First semester freshmen can go through rush but they can not pledge. Basically this allows freshmen to meet the groups. 2nd semester freshmen can pledge. The group I really liked didn't give me a bid second semester because they thought I was definitely going with what turned out to be the only sorority that gave me a bid. Moral of the story - don't make up someone's mind for them - if you like them and want them to be a sister, give them a bid!
