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Originally posted by Senusret I
The power dynamics are different. Two pledges don't have organizational power over one another; a pledge and a brother is more complicated.
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But since hazing doesn't/isn't supposed to happen any more, how much "power" can a brother have over a pledge? If someone's an officer, are they not allowed to date a member, since one would have organizational power over another? I guess I just don't understand how it can be applied in some circumstances and not others?
and i'm not trying to be too nebby or critical, i'm just curious.
As a general question, for co-ed organizations, when there are no dating rules, are they written into your national/international bylaws, or is a chapter by chapter basis?
Freshman year I rushed an honor fraternity with my boyfriend at the time. We didn't make a big deal out of the fact that we were dating, but we didn't hide it. He got a bid and I didn't (which in a way I found kinda funny because he barely met the minimum credentials). He didn't accept it. I can't complain, had I joined, I probably wouldn't have really liked it, and then I probably never would've rushed KD the following semester.
I guess that's also a problem when you're rushing a "couple" much like when there's a group of friends rushing together- kind of an all or none deal. If you give a bid to one but not the other, you run a strong risk that you'll get neither. Probably more likely in a couples situation than a friend situation.