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Originally posted by kddani
If someone has a cocaine habit and was my sister, I wouldn't give a crap about pissing them off by confronting them about it. Who wants that associated with their letters? Who wants to see a friend delve into that sort of downward spiral?
So what are you supposed to do, just stand there and watch this person f up their life, damage your chapter, and possibly leave your sorority with a huge liability on their hands? What if she ODs in the house? If the sorority sisters (or fraternity brothers, whichever sex the person is) knew that they were using, and didn't do anything about it, there'd be a lawsuit in a minute. Heck, even if they didn't know she was using and she OD'd in the house or at a function, there'd still probably be major liability.
If a sister was doing coke, yes, i'd vote to terminate her membership in a minute, unless she was making a huge effort to get help with it. Doesn't mean that I'd never talk to her again or write her out of my life, but they've got bigger fish to fry than worrying about being in a GLO.
It's obviously a bigger problem than just a person or two at WVU, though, and there certainly must be things that can be done to try to change the overall atmosphere.
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Terminating her membership is a touch selfish as posed, IMO - it seems considerably more 'sisterly' to attempt to get her help, or allow her the proper social outlets for the "if and when" portion of her deciding to get help.
It's also a bit . . . idyllic? to label this a WVU problem. There are fraternity and sorority members at Pitt, UPenn, Xavier, you name it who use drugs illegally. Separating cocaine from weed and even alcohol is just applying an arbitrary manner of degree to each - and obviously, across different instances, people see different degrees. This subject, unfortunately, is an endemic greek problem - it's akin to the onion's great "This Just In: Cool Kids Drink More" article - and we shouldn't look down our noses at one particular facet of it.
Also, from the more clinical side, there are thousands that have recreationally used illicit drugs, and as they've matured and become adults have come out none the worse for wear. This is quite similar to the fine line between alcohol use and abuse - I'd say treat it in a manner consistent with your policies and programs in place for substance abuse, but keeping a handle on legal issues you may or may not face.