Russ, you need to qualify what you said the way Munchkin did--thanks, Munchkin! I know many families with 3 or more children who are doing an absolutely fantastic job. If you're going to have a big family, as we do, you have to be willing to put in a ton of time--as we do.
I too get nauseated when I meet guys who've fathered a dozen kids with as many women all around town.
Naturally they never show up to see any of them.