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i did pay my own way through school and the university called my parents about something once (long story as to why) but i was so ticked. I mean, i was an adult, i did not break the law, which is slightly different then what is happening here) but then my parents where all "concerend about me" Well the thing is that my parents were abusive and i went away to california to get away from them. The university involving my parents was completely out of line. Guess it would make more sence if you knew the story, but lets just say that the university had no right to call my parents and they did. Then my parents kept coming to visit (at the universities request) and it just made everything way harder and dreadged up all the issues of abuse that i was trying to escape. Ohh my god, if i had more energy i would have seen if i could have sued the university. But i didnt and i transferred schools. well that solved the problem.
I guess i can see where the university is comming from, like hey do you know what you kids are doing. And as far as drinking that could be in response to the deaths that have occured and possible the university is doing this so that they will not be held liable by the parents. I have read many of the articles relating to alcohol related deaths and there seem to always be comments from the parents saying something to the tune of if we only knew. Now i don't think this will help cause i know many parents that do not take responsibility of actually raising their children and only get invovled after a major problem. I use to work in an elementary and middle school and saw this all the time. once the kid had gotten suspended for getting in fights and the parents had to come pick up their kid the parents would be like, "oh, why was i not informed before now, why are you doing this to my pour little kid". Like sending notes home that were signed was not enought.
just a result of our society, i think. And it would be stupid to call someones parents if the adult student did not want the parent involved in their live.
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