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Originally posted by kddani
And if i'm prejudiced for thinking that a teenager with a child shouldn't be spending her "spare" time between class, raising a child, work, etc worrying about being in a sorority and all the hours of time involved, then so be it. Never knew I was prejudiced for valuing my ideal that one should spend time with her child.
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Come on. It is not your business to decide what other people do with their time. This is like saying you shouldn't rush if you're pre-med or pre-law or engineering because you should be studying instead of doing sorority things, or you shouldn't rush if you're on a sports team or if you have a job because you won't have enough time to balance that, or you shouldn't rush if you have a sick family member you have to take care of or a boyfriend you have to spend time with, or, you know, friends outside of the sorority. We all do not have to become slaves to our sororities. In my sorority, the required pledge activities were meetings 1-2 hours a week and one all-day pledge retreat, which is nothing a pregnant woman (or even new mom) couldn't handle. And of course, this is all assuming that she's not giving the baby up for adoption, as someone (I think ZTAngel) mentioned above. If she's already going to school full-time, she's obviously got some kind of financial stability and someone to look after the kid several days a week. Is adding a few more hours to the mix really going to be that damaging?
I think this idea that "new moms should spend all their time possible with their babies" particularly interesting in light of concerns that post-partum depression is linked to the idea that mothers don't spend enough time with people their own age, being social, and they start to feel isolated.
Personally, I think this entire thread is hilarious because people are bending over backwards trying to be PC and saying, "No, no, it's not that we don't want pregnant pledges because pregnant=premarital sex=QR, it's just that we're just thinking about what's best for the kid!" But they manage to be even more offensive this way, by pushing off their parenting ideas (when many of them aren't even parents) on everybody else and saying that you're a bad mom if you don't conform. If you don't want a pregnant girl in your chapter -- fine, mutual selection allows us to drop girls from rush for a lot of less-than-substantial reasons. But don't start calling people bad parents because their idea of parenting doesn't match up with yours. You can work full-time or go to school full time (while joining a sorority) and still bring up great kids. You can hang out with your kid 24/7 until it's 18 and have the most obnoxious kid known to man. My mom worked full-time for most of the time that my sister and I were growing up, and guess what? We both turned out 20 times better than anyone we know with stay-at-home moms. It's the quality of the parenting, not the quantity.
I'm also interested -- what if a member of your chapter got pregnant and decided to keep the baby after she had already initiated?