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i have a good friend who got pregnaunt when we were both 20. She kept the baby and lived with her parents, She had graduated from junior college with a transfer degree but once she got pregnaunt she didn't go on to a 4 year school. She lived with her parents, who would baby sit for her if she paid them and only when they could do it,mostly likely only when she was working or had to go to the doctor. Sometimes if we wanted to shopping she would get permission from her parents to baby sit her son. I love my friend to death and her son, but quite honestly i really can not relate to her. She is still a nice person, but all her money goes to her son in one way or another minus living expenses such as food, car payment, ect. But eventhough i still think that she is a wonderful person she has changed. We can not go out and have fun on friday nights, we cant go anywhere with out finding someone to babysit, and as mean as it may sound at the age of 20 i didn't really want to deal with dipers, baby doctor visits and a whole lot of things dealing with the baby. No mater how much i love my friend, i really have (still to this day) have a harder time relating to her.
I think, for me, this would be the issue. If i were in an undergraduate chapter how are 18, 19 and 20 years olds who are at college to get an education suppose to relate to someone who has a baby and has to deal with (ie illness, other stuff). I would not want to be around a baby at that age and i really would not think that it would be the best to assume that other women this age would want to be around babies and children especially since i could not relate and I think that it would be bad to assume that other girls would.
I could just image that women might leave a sorority cause they could not feel that they could relate and be close to someone who is dealing with a big major part of their lifes that the average college freshman would be dealing with.
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