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Originally posted by kddani
Well that could be said for anyone. Suzy Sadistic Druggie Prostitute could totally turn a new leaf. Does she deserve a fair chance?
No one said the girl couldn't rush. But rush is MUTUAL SELECTION. Both sides have to make choices... someone's gotta go. Just like in hiring a new person for a job... you might have a ton of people who could do the job, but you have to pick the one that can do it the best.
The exact same way. And she would probably get cut, too.
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I agree with you Danielle. Unfortunately, if Suzy Sadistic Druggie Prostitute is the most amazing girl in the world, she is still going to be judged for membership. It isn't fair, but that is the way it. People can say until they are blue in the face that they don't judge girls seeking membership by superficial ideals such as someone being unmarried and an underclassmen, but they do.
I came from a very large Chapter in a very competitive greek system in the South. I had 58 girls in my pledge class. We would not extend a bid to a pregnant PNM. I NOT am saying that this girl wouldn't be a good mom if she were in a sorority or that she wouldn't be able to give the sorority 100 percent or be a great sister. We just wouldn't give her a bid. We most likely wouldn't give a Junior classman a bit. I know that it's harsh, and I know and it isn't fair for her to be punished.
We would never accept Suzy Sadistic Druggie Prostitute, for the mere fact that she has a "questionable reputation" and our reputation is something that is highly regarded and protected. The same goes for a sister engaging in activities that are not deemed acceptable by the chapter and it's ideals. The chapter would internally take care of the sister's actions. We wouldn't shun her or turn her away, but if for instance a sister is doing damage to herself or the chapter, it becomes an issue for the exec board and advisors. A sister always represents her chapter and her sisters in all that she does. And this isn't just my chapter at my school, it was ALL of them.
We had two girls become pregant their sophmore years. Of course they continued their membership and the chapter was very supportive with their pregnancies. However, both girls ended up disaffiliating due to time committments with the chapter they were unable to fullfill.
Now the situation maybe different at smaller schools with small chapters and I can't speak for them.