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Okay, I have read all the thoughts on this topic and I have to agree with all the people who say that it is that woman's call. If she feels that she can balance being in a sorority, being a full time student and being a mother, who are we to totally blackball her and not give her a chance. Doesn't she deserve a chance just like all the other PNM's going through formal or informal recruitment? Plus, for all we know this hypothetical sister could be a better sister than the girl who doesn't have a kid.
I don't think it is for us to "punish" these girls. I had a friend who got pregnant at 14. It's not like she chose to get pregnant, it was an accident. She kept her daughter and went to college. Now had she decided to rush, should she continue to be "punished" over something that happened when she was 14? No she should't.
Now if the girl were actually pregnant going through recruitment I think it's our job as sisters to ask her what her plans are. Should we just jump to the assumption that she is keeping the baby? No. Just like we shouldn't jump to the assumption that she is giving the baby up for adoption. For all we know she could have an incredibly supportive family who is encouraging her to rush. Plus, the father might still be in the picture giving his encouragement.
I wonder how people would feel if this hypothetical PNM were a legacy?
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"Courage is not the absence of fear, but the capacity to act despite our fears" John McCain
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt
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