[SquirrelGirl]

I grew up in a house where things were financially very readily availble, but I was never spoiled. In fact, compared to some people I grew up with, I was the opposite of spoiled! I did take horseback riding lessons but never had aything more than the basic clothes and shoes. Certainly not my own saddle or a horse (or 5) like some of my friends did. Shopping was limited to two or three times a year (back to school, winter, and summer) and most of the time I wore clothes from the previous year as well as my new ones. Hey, the more clothes the better, right?

Yes, I do drive a 2004 car now, but it is actually property of my grandfather and had been used by a rental compay for a year when I got it. I got it because I recieved several scholarships and go to a state school, where I go 100% for free because of that. Yes, it's not Tulane (where I wanted to go), but it's not 40 grand a year either! My parents also drew the line on where I got to go to college that they would pay for.....I didn't have to go to a state school, but I did choose to (by default at first, but now I love it and will be here for a least a few more years). I get to drive the car payment and insurance free as long as I stay in college and keep a relatively good GPA (and my scholarships mandate a 3.0).

It sounds to me like your kids are not overly spoiled. Yes, they may be indulged a little bit, but most kids are by now....hopefully you will continue along the lines you are now and not say, buy them new cars on their 16th birthday, a few horses, a tennis court of their own, and shopping sprees at Saks.

Sorry for such a long reply!
(edited for spelling)