You are acting like 12 years old . . . or ok maybe 16. This is one of those situations where if both parties just said what they meant, sans the sarcasm and double-talk everything would be clear.
You were supposed to have grown out of that type of behavior in high school. However, you are not alone, most people keep doing it their entire lives.
If he is treating you well and you like him, the only question you need to ask is whether you can handle having a good relationship without the title.
If the title is the clincher for you, which is fine, then you have to bail because you have already screwed things up by giving him stupid attitude instead of just saying what you meant and leaving it at that.
Valkyrie is right, ultimatums are abad idea. But what you have been doing is likewise bad, you are using negative emotion to manipulate him into asking you to "go steady". Everytime the topic comes up and he doesn't ask you you "punish" him with more bad attitude.
So even if he asks you out now, you won't know whether its really because he wants you, is afraid to lose you, or feels guilty or miserable because of the attitude you are giving him.
Why do you girls (some) have to ruin good things with such inept people skills?
Also, just as an aside, I wonder if he holds it against you that you were mentally cheating on your last boyfriend with him . . .. I am sure any of his friends would have spotted that and thought it was "beat."
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Originally posted by WVU alpha phi
Well I have a little update on the whole situation. He came over last night and I was talking about how my parents are coming to see me this weekend. He was like, "so am I good enough to meet your parents?" and I was like "Um I don't know, do you want to?" and he just kinda laughed and was like, "I don't know, then they might love me." I don't think I want to introduce him to my parents because I don't know how I would- like "Hey Mom, this is John, the guy I'm hanging out and hooking up with!" and I don't want her to get all involved in it like she usually tries to. Then later on in the night he brought up the relationship talk again and kinda said like "well do you just wanna be my girlfriend?" and I said "No, not if you're going to ask like that, just forget it, you told me where you stand" and then he acted like I had been all hurtful and rejected him. I only said that because he seemed like he asked in a joking matter AND he had been drinking earlier and even thoguh I don't think he was drunk, I don't want things to be like that.
Everyone's posts are really making me consider just breaking this off if he doesn't want me as a girlfriend. Are ultimatums (sp?) a bad thing?
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