[FSUZeta]

i have two children who are now teenagers and i know how much time it takes to be a good and responsible parent, especially when the child is young. i also know how much time a sorority takes up in college, how much time classes take and how much time it takes to study and get good grades. something will be neglected if a young woman is a full time student, a single parent and a sorority member. if she neglects her studies she may be dismissed from school, thus making it harder to make a good living and be able to support the child. if she neglects her sorority duties she will be hassled by the other members and made to feel guilty for not participating in the activities. if the baby gets short shrift of her time, it really can't complain because it is a baby.i have also done volunteer work with unwed teenage mothers(which may have jaded my opinion) and most of them keep their babies, not realizing how much time, energy and money it takes to raise a child. they want to go out like the average teen to movies, parties, sporting events or just hang with their friends, but they often can't because of the baby, or the grandmother has to babysit. so yes i am judgemental. i feel that if a young woman (and i mean high school or college age) gets pregnant and keeps her baby, then the baby should be her top priority. and yes, mothers should treat themselves ,but the time and money it takes be a good, contributing member of a sorority will take time away from her baby. i think that you would find that most mothers treat themselves to the occasional manicure or pedicure, the occasional lunch with the girls or some quiet time alone. their treats don't happen everyday, cost a lot of money or take up hours of time.