I think that as a society we throw the term "low self-esteem" around an awful lot. And I think we all have different ideas of what it means. In fact, low self esteem asa term might be more of a negative label meant to cover several types of behaviors deemed less desirable.
In this case, I am not sure I would call it low self esteem that would motivate a boy into calling a girl he knows is going to pay attention to him and give him what he wants.
He's not messing with a gir'ls mind to mess with it. He is taking an action he thinks will get him what he wants. She thinks he is messing with her, bcause what she wants or wishes is different than the reality.
A cognitive dissonance.
And he probably doesn't think he is wrong until it starts causing him pain or discomfort. Why should he? As long as he is getting something he thinks he need out of it.
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Originally posted by sugar and spice
I'm just curious -- if you (editorial you, not a specific you) know that what you're doing is wrong, why keep doing that? I can't really fathom a person having so little self-esteem or being so weak that they need to screw with a person's head on purpose just to give them a sense of control. I understand situations like this sometimes happen where you don't realize what you're doing until later, and that's understandable -- who hasn't done something along those lines? But messing with somebody on purpose just blows my mind and speaks to major, major underlying issues on the part of the person who's doing the controlling.
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