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Originally posted by 33girl
I hope that you realized that the majority of the women on this board find that incomprehensible.
I mean, I've heard the "one in four" thing over and over, but this is just - I don't even have a word - astounding perhaps?
Of course, that depends on the definition of "assaulted" you are using. If a guy grabs my ass in a bar, I don't consider that assault - I consider that a guy who's going to get a swift kick. What I'm getting from your post is, you and every one of your female friends and acquaintances have either been raped or nearly raped.
I'm not saying you aren't telling the truth but, geez, I honestly have no idea what to say.
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Maybe this is a generational thing -- no clue. I'm not talking about ass-grabbing in bars (which, to me, would fall under sexual harassment and not assault -- and I don't think there's a women alive who hasn't experienced sexual harassment), although I'm not necessarily talking about near-rape, either. I remember a conversation with three of my really close girlfriends in high school where it came up that out of the four of us, one had been raped, one had almost been raped, one had been sexually assaulted walking home from school when she was 12 or 13 and the fourth had been sexually assaulted by a male babysitter when she was younger. (Keep in mind that this was when we were 17, almost five years ago, and by now some of us have been assaulted or just narrowly escaped more than once.) Every conversation I've had with close (and some not-so-close) female friends has taken similar turns. Maybe the 1 in 4 rule is and my friends are just extraordinarily unlucky. Maybe Madison is just a hotbed of sexual assault.
Or maybe the 1 in 4 is an estimate based off guesses of how many people report it and they are vastly underestimating. I do know that not a single person I know who has been assaulted or raped has reported it, which is something I've never stopped to think about before but is pretty interesting now that I have.