[pinkyphimu]

i agree about letting the chapter make their own mistakes, but there are a few things i have stepped in on...in a tactful way. there was something they were planning for recruitment that honestly would have made them the laughing stock of campus, so the other advisor present and i let them know. they made changes (which still made my skin crawl, but was much more appropriate) and things went over just fine. i clearly put my foot down for things against policies, make suggestions when asked, and help out with what i can. the main thing that frustrates me is that i honestly don't want to have to chase the exec board down for information and to make sure they stay on top of their positions. i am not their mom, lol, but frequently, i wait till the last minute and ask, "how is xyz coming along?" and they look at me like i have nine heads and say, "what is xyz? when is it due?" oye. i also never expect the general chapter to appreciate me. the majority of my work is done with the exec board, so i know they don't always see what i do.