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Originally posted by HotDamnImAPhiMu
Yeah, a guy grabbing my ass at a bar isn't a big deal. The guy who keeps grabbing it at work? A little different. And you complain, but folks at work are saying, Well, she WAS flirting with him a lot there for awhile. And he says, You're just complaining because I don't take it even farther.
And suddenly you end up feeling kinda trashy and dirty and you're pretty sure you didn't do anything wrong to begin with, but it seems like it's a better idea to just let the whole thing go than make a huge stinking deal about what was really just an ass grab. But you're pretty sure you were right in the first place. And why is no one backing you up?
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If you're in a workplace where a guy thinks he can grab your ass and not get fired - even if you're completely fine with it - that's not a safe working environment for women OR men.
I mean, I worked at a ski resort right after college. The environment was laid back, to say the least. The girls and guys were all single and in their 20's or early 30's - you do the math. Yes, stuff was going on consensually after hours, but I can assure you if our bosses would have ever seen ANYTHING like what you describe, the parties involved would have been fired then and there.
The most I've ever experienced is a guy looking at my legs and obviously liking what he saw. Did I feel gross? No. I took it as a compliment. Unless we all want to get into bags like John & Yoko, men and women are going to notice those things. I'm starting to feel like "OMG Jim probably thought I was hitting on him when I told him he smelled good and his wife's gonna find out and shoot me."