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Originally posted by 33girl
I mean, I've heard the "one in four" thing over and over, but this is just - I don't even have a word - astounding perhaps?
I'm not saying you aren't telling the truth but, geez, I honestly have no idea what to say.
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What she may have meant is that just about ALL women have had that unique feeling that comes with being sexually assualted. Yeah, a guy grabbing my ass at a bar isn't a big deal. The guy who keeps grabbing it at work? A little different. And you complain, but folks at work are saying, Well, she WAS flirting with him a lot there for awhile. And he says, You're just complaining because I don't take it even farther.
And suddenly you end up feeling kinda trashy and dirty and you're pretty sure you didn't do anything wrong to begin with, but it seems like it's a better idea to just let the whole thing go than make a huge stinking deal about what was really just an ass grab. But you're pretty sure you were right in the first place. And why is no one backing you up?
Maybe the point is just that sexual assualt IS, as was said earlier, an intensely personal experience. And it brings with it a lot of weird other-ness.... I mean, if a random guy came up to you in a bar and landed his foot squarely on your ass, and you turned around and clocked him, no one would say anything, right? But the same guy pinching it (still equally as unwelcome!) and you clocking him is going to get you a TOTALLY different reaction. She's a bitch, what's she expect at a bar, what's she expect when she's drinking, when she wears that out, etc.
ALMOST ALL guys are great. They don't hit or pinch or make women uncomfortable by doing inappropriate things. And we're lucky, we have so many great guys on this board and they offer a great juxtaposition on a discussion forum that ends up being completely overrun by estrogen sometimes. BUT, most guys haven't actually experienced sexual assualt, on any level.... and I think most women have, and that right there is going to skew this discussion because we're coming from such different places.
And yes. I know that's a really broad definition of sexual assualt. I don't know any better (shorter) way to describe, "being made to feel uncomfortable, intimidated, or abused in a sexual way."