Hannahgirl...As someone who has been out of the chapter for 10+ years, let me tell you that your organization is smart for making this rule. I've seen girls who are recent alums come back the next year to help with Recruitment. It never works out as they are too close to the house (emotionally) and want to become an active part of the decision making when it comes to choosing PNMs and at some point, want a say in the matter. The older alums have had to designate newer alums to "behind the scene" duties to keep them off the floor and to make sure they aren't influencing the decisions of the active house.
Give yourself some time to disaffiliate with your chapter. It'll help you with objectivity and make you a stronger advisor when your 3 years roll around. Stay active with your local alum chapter...this way you're still supporting your house, but in a less direct way...
In the end, you'll be glad you did...it'll make you more ready for becoming an advisor...
Good luck!
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Originally posted by hannahgirl
I guess my issue is kind of opposite. DG has a rule that you have to be out of your chapter 3 years before returning as an advisor (I'm sure most sororities have a variation of this rule). Well....I've been out for a year now and my chapter is in desperate need of a Recruitment Advisor and no one is willing to do it. (well, no one but me). The Alumnae chapter has recognized this and I even spent fall recruitment with them as a "Co-Advisor" type with the current Advisor who just can't fulfill the position anymore.
Well.....our Chapter Advisor was supposed to talk to whoever she needed to in order to get me in as the new RA and it seems that her one and only effort has failed and she's given up on trying. I'm aware that she spoke with one person but I'm positive that if she spoke to our Regional Recruitment person or even someone at EO, that they would understand the situation the chapter is in and waive the rule. I especially think this because they know me personally from when I myself was in charge of recruitment and being involved with the chapter.
I guess my biggest problem right now is the fact that the chapter looks to me as the Advisor....calling me with questions, asking me to be at the house for the events, etc. I just feel very discouraged because I want to help but I also don't want to just be there helping when I spent the last semester preparing to advise. It just really upsets me that I can be an advisor at any other chapter now, but I'm being held back from my chapter because I haven't been out of school long enough.
Excuse my ranting....just hoping that someone else has been through this situation also.
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