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Originally posted by AngelPhiSig:
Okay, Im 21, is it wrong for me to like someone who is around 30? 
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I don't think there's anything wrong with it per se, but unless you plan on just casually dating this person, it's important to know what you want out of the relationship. I have twice dated men 6 years my senior--once in high school and once just recently. The first time, I knew it would be a short-term gig, because why would a grown man really want to be with a high-schooler (even a super mature one) unless he had some emotional/maturity issues? I liked the fact he had is own place though
. The second one I figured would be long-term, because I'm only interested in long-term/permenant, stable relationships at this point, so at his age, I figured he was too. Partially wrong, because he was a bit set in his ways and a wee bit lazy
, but one of the only times I noticed the difference in age was when we were talking about the first movie we'd seen as youngsters without our parents. His was "Saturday Night Fever."
and I think I was in elementary school.
Again, the real key is to determine what your goals are for dating a person that may have different long-terms relationship goals than yourself. When the age difference occurs makes a difference too. It seems that generally the older you are, the less issues dating someone older seems to have, although if you're 30, single, no kids and a blossoming career and your potential is 39, bitterly divorced with two young children in his custody, that may be more than you're interested in even if you have the same long-term goals---and then again, maybe not.