I'm 23 years old. In less than two months I'm getting married . . . to a 30 year old man.
Is our relationship perfect? no. no relationship is perfect. Are we perfect for each OTHER? Yes. I've never in my life felt more in tune with another human being. This man is my soul mate, I have no doubt what-so-ever that this is true. We've lived together for over 2 years now--unmarried (duh) and have learned so much from one another.
We throw around the word 'maturity' so easily, but maturity isn't based on age. Maturity is based on experience. Now we can generalize and say that no 23 year old woman has more experience than her 30 year old future husband. But I've seen and experienced things that my future husband hasn't even come close to experiencing. Who's to say that I don't know about life.
I found a man who loves me for who I am, the fact he's 30 and I'm 23 has nothing to do with anything. He's not at a different place in his life than I am. We're not looking for different thing. We aren't 'idealistic'. He's not my sugar daddy. I'm not his young play thing. I've heard all the generalizations--nothing surpises me anymore. I know what we've got, and I don't have to explain that to anyone.
So sweetie--you follow your heart because YOU are the only one who knows what's best for you. You need to go for what you want in life--because it's not going to be handed to you.
[This message has been edited by mgdzkm433 (edited August 06, 2001).]
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