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Originally posted by P7A77:
More often than not, the older men involved in these situations have issues with control and probably fantasies about even younger girls. Either that or all the people their age just realized they were complete buffoons not worth their time. The younger women involved in these situations are often blinded by how sweet they are (at first), or how much more financially secure they are than the "boys" their age, or whatever else. Plus, there is always a bit of the "looking for daddy" thing.
I'm not saying that relationships with a vast age difference can't work. I'm saying that, in the way our society is, the vast majority of them are misguided and based more on the issues and insecurities the people involved have than on the relationships themselves.
And I know I'm coming off as a broken record, but I seem to have been misunderstood before, so I just want to make sure. The reason that all men your age that you date aren't good for you is the same reason the older men you date aren't good for you either. It's not the men. It's you. They're both different sides of the same coin. To say that you can't find what you want in your own agegroup is a cop-out. If you can't come to terms with why you keep getting in failed relationships and what it says about yourself, what makes you think you'll just happen to find the perfect guy who's a little bit older? It's not the men. It's you. The patterns are caused by you, and the same aspects of your personality that cause you to pick bad younger men will cause you to pick bad older men, too. You just might not realize it as quickly, and that's where the danger lies.
PS. "your" is a posssessive pronoun; "you're" is a contraction of "you are". 
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P7A777 -
Put down the Psychology 101. Take a nice bubble bath. Open up your heart and let the sun shine in.
Nothing more tiresome than a feminist who puts down other females. "It's not the men it's you"?!?! Come ON. If we all ever got as evolved as you think we should be, we'd be curing cancer on the fifth moon of Neptune. I don't think Ali ever said she thought the 30 year old was Mr Perfect Man and here you are getting on her s&$t.
Jerks are jerks whether they be 16 or 60. My boyfriend is 6 years older than me and used to date a woman 10 years older than him. I guess we're all just bloody warped.
p.s. Ali, you and your 30 year old can come over to my place any time.
