I don't see anything wrong with a 10 year age difference in adults--but, that said--no matter how mature you are and how immature the 30 year old is, there are still going to be big differences. Your lives are in different places, your life experience is in different places.
My good guy friend who is 35 is dating a 24 year old and though he is attracted to her and likes her all he does is complain about this and complain about that and I have to take HER side and remind him that what he's complaining about is basically that she's 24 and does not have the life experience to relate to him on the level he needs her to.
That said, I am 32 and recently met a 40 year old i was into. But it became pretty clear pretty quickly that he was too old for me--he was of a totally different generation and way too old fashioned for me.
My rule of thumb is--best if you were in high school at the same time--a 3 year gap--you'll be able to relate to the same things. 3 years up or 3 years down is safe.
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