[ISUKappa]

Our pre-marital counseling was done by the Pastor marrying us (from the huzbin's home town, so he knew him very well). We had a lovely book ca. 1972 with issues and questions to read and think about.

In our three sessions, we mostly talked about our varying communication styles, how we can communicate better with each other and how we can communicate with God to help us resolve any differences that may arise. We touched lightly on children--just that we both wanted them sometime; finances--we were going to combine accounts; and religion--how it was important to both of us. No talk of sex and some of learning to live with each other and new habits (we were technically living apart, but were together more often than not).

I think he was pretty easy on us as he knew huzbin so well.

I don't think the point is to specifically find out if you're a perfect match or not; it's to help determine how you will act/react in certain situations, to help you understand how your partner may react differently in the same situation and how to work with each other if those reactions are completely different.