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Originally posted by amycat412
I think what the author is trying to convey is disdain for the public's attitude that Jen is off her rocker for leaving Brad and not having his babies. Its HER CHOICE.
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Okay, I may sound like the old man here, but no, it's not
her choice. It's
their choice -- a decision that they are supposed to make together.
Once you are married, decisions like this no longer belong to just the husband or the wife, they belong to the husband
and the wife. Does that it mean it's easy to decide together on something as important as "to have kids or not have kids" when one spouse wants them and the other doesn't? Certainly not, but many, many couples have managed to do it and have stronger marriages because of it. That's because those couples have learned that in making a decision, they have to give just as much respect to their spouse's feelings as to their own.
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Originally posted by jellybean
I agree, the quickest way to ruin a marriage and have complete and utter disdain for your partner is to compromise your beliefs and life goals.
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Yes, because your spouse should never expect or even want you to do that. At the same time, having an attitude that something like this is "my" decision rather than "our" decision can ruin a marriage just as quickly.
All of that said, husband may want kids, but the kids aren't there yet. Wife, whom husband vowed to be a partner to for the rest of their lives, is there already. She gets precedence over kids that may or may not come.