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Originally posted by honeychile
DolphinChicaDDD - I haven't seen a Tri-Delta rec sheet in years (since my neighbor filled one out for me!). On ours, we have a box which we can check that says we do NOT recommend that the PNM is given a bid, no explanation needed. We do need to give our name/address/phone number, in case the chapter really loves that PNM and an Advisor can get in touch with you as to the "why". There's a huge difference between "she dumped my son & made him cry" and "she has a police record & is a horrible person all around." If you have that option, I would use it. That way, the PNM still maintains some privacy, and Tri-Delta is spared a horrible sister.
Good luck, and follow your conscience. And if there's an ADPi chapter there, you might want to PM me a heads up, too! 
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ETA: No ADPi, no worries, lol. Although, I do feel the need to warn the other sororites I'm on campus who I have friends in. But I don't think my conscience will let me go that far. Because I'm friendly with those girls, but not best friends. I mean,how much stock would anyone's chapter put in my words anyway?
I checked the Tri Delt rec form and it doesn't have a no-rec option, although that would be great. I could have SWARN that used to be an option, and considering I've only been around for almost 2 years...it had to be a recent change. Or maybe I'm making it up, I do that alot.
Anyway, I've talked to 3 or 4 sisters that I'm pretty close with still, and they suggested I call the rec person at the chapter, introduce myself and then see if she would want me to send in a bad letter.
Thanks for the advice all!!
