[adpiucf]

My stepmom and my mom, neither of whom I have ever been close with, have picked up the annoying habit of inquiring about my lovelife.

99% of the time if I am dating someone, I don't "write home" about it. Until I'm ready to introduce someone to my family, I just don't see the point. I live far from my family and it's not like they can keep straight all of my female friends and co-workers names, so why add more confusion to the mix. And I hate getting the, "And how is Mr. ADPiUCF?" They don't know him, haven't met him... who really cares?

So lately, I have been getting the "are you dating anyone?" (maybe I am, and maybe I'm not, but I usually answer "no") and I get silence, a sigh, and then, "well you'll meet someone when your're not looking."

I feel this implies that my life in incomplete and inadaquate without a man. And the idea of my parents thinking about my sex life kinda freaks me out.

So I recently sat down with my mother, and told her that I while I know she wants what is best for me and for me to be happy, I get a little down when she asks about my dating life. Just that the way she goes about it makes me feel I should think there is something wrong with me. And that it's not fair. She understood and said we wouldn't mention it again unless I brought it up. I really appreciated that.

My stepmother, however, screeched like a banshee that it was a normal question, and why must she walk on eggshells with me? Priceless-- she asked if I considered seeing a professional counselor to talk about this with? And so on and so on.

I should point out that my stepmother raised me with my dad, and mom was not in the picture.

Anway, to end a very long post-- why can't a girl be successful in life and let her parents leave it at that?! There's nothing wrong with me for having standards in work, dating, etc, and nothing wrong with keeping things private from my parents. We were never best friend-buddy buddy to begin with, so I can't really even begin to understand where my step-mom expects me to be her new best girlfriend and share intimate details that are none of her business.