[HotDamnImAPhiMu]

This is ridiculous.

If you don't want to talk to him, DON'T TALK TO HIM.

This shit about "oh, we still want to be friends" and "he seems like he's pushing for something else" is bullshit. It was a 3 year relationship. If you don't understand that there ISN'T going to be a smooth transition from 3 years of dating to a post-breakup friendship, I don't know what to tell you.



If you're really done with the relationship (and not just really enjoying the attention, which is what I suspect you're doing) proceed as follows:


(1) (optional)Tell him not to call you again. Ever.
(2) When he calls, don't pick up.
(3) When he leaves messages, delete.
(4) Don't return calls.

If after a month he's still calling frequently, change your phone number. Is it a hassle? Yes. Did you bring it on yourself by dragging this out and not making it clear through your words and actions that his behavior was unacceptable? Yes.