Let me see, I agree with:
TippieChick & Polarpi about the Info-Only Rec. If I know the PNM's family and/or her friends well enough, I'll add that, too.
DolphinChicaDDD - I haven't seen a Tri-Delta rec sheet in
years (since my neighbor filled one out for me!). On ours, we have a box which we can check that says we do NOT recommend that the PNM is given a bid, no explanation needed. We do need to give our name/address/phone number, in case the chapter really loves that PNM and an Advisor can get in touch with you as to the "why". There's a huge difference between "she dumped my son & made him cry" and "she has a police record & is a horrible person all around." If you have that option, I would use it. That way, the PNM still maintains some privacy, and Tri-Delta is spared a horrible sister.
Good luck, and follow your conscience. And if there's an ADPi chapter there, you might want to PM me a heads up, too!
