Valkyrie--
While many of the post by my younger colleagues dishearten me immensely, i.e. "I wannabe married by 2 and have 50 boys at 10", I think that your question is very profound. What if it NEVER happens...
Well, I was one to accept the "NEVER"... I wanted to meet a man that I loved and he loved me, too and we just get married and have a family... And my age just crept up and up... Sure I met plenty of suitors, I loved them, but they didn't love me or vice versa...
So in betwixted my 30's, after my illness, I was like, the next guy that I love and he loves me, I am gonna be straight up with him and put him on a "heartbreaker--dealbreaker, time schedule of 3 months". My logic being that after 3 months of serious dating, then having to break up because of lack of commitment issues won't hurt as bad as in my "old 30-something" age creeps upto 40ish and 50ish or beyond and a nowhere going relationship keeps on for umpteen years...
Well, my now husband called my bluff--within the 3 month time limit...
The fact is I think most young ladies here are putting up with stuff and settling for less with the men in their lives...
However, there are those young ladies that like the glamorous life... And a husband can't fit into that schema...
But what bothers me most is that some young ladies here have a "jaded" view about life and it will bite them in the azz... Not everything is gonna wind up as a rose garden, sweetheart... And there are plenty of men on GC that are telling them this skrait up and personal...
I may be unable to have children. My husband does not want children. I am nearing 40... I personally do not want to become pregnant at 40 and I will not have any biotechnology affecting my uterus... But, hey, you just deal with those facts and realities. One can be a mother to the motherless... Adoption, esepecially for children of color and African American children are strongly needed... So the lack of available children out there isn't the issue for me...
I just think my genomic DNA is of superior quality to influence the gene pool...
