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Originally posted by pisces_princess
Hello all,
My question (for undergrads and grads) is being an active member too time consuming to where it can take a toll on your grades?
Also I have seen with the people on my campus friendships end or friends that become distant after one or more of their friends became a member, do you think that becoming a member of a sorority challenges friendships?
Thanks in advance for your answers and thanks to the person who started this thread, this is an outlet for those of us who are interested in pledging and not an opportunity that is presented often.
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My grades were not affected negatively by my membership at all. If you are the type of person who is easily distracted from your goal (i.e. graduation and a respectable GPA), any organization or activity will jeopardize your grades.
From what I have seen, most friendships that end after one person becomes a member did not have the substance to remain for much longer anyway. As we grow and change, sometimes we have to leave people behind because they are not ready to go to that next level with us. Others extinguish relationships because of underlying jealousy, anger, or other self-defeating emotions. In my opinion, those type of friends need to be left by the wayside eventually anyway. I am still friends with people who are not members of my organization. I did not abandon who I was when I became an AKA. At the same time, my true friends understood my desire for membership and were excited for me when it came to be. They were not selfish or jealous of my decision. That is why we were able to remain friends throughout my membership.