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Originally posted by Taualumna
When should a woman become a "Ms"? I have Charlotte Ford's 21st Century Etiquette, and she says that "older" unmarried women are never to be "Miss". What is "older"? Personally, I use "Ms." for all professional correspondence, and Miss for young girls and unmarried women who are my age or want to be addressed as "Miss" (my high school addresses all my alumnae mail to Miss Cynthia LASTNAME '98). Many older unmarried women, especially those who were brought up before the 1960s prefer "Miss" over "Ms" .
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Charlotte Ford's full of poo. I have no problem with Miss. But like valkyrie said - she dislikes it intensely. To me, it would seem easier to use Ms - especially on written correspondence since it's shorter. At any rate, I believe people who are married are less offended by being called "Miss" or "Ms" than unmarried people are by being called "Mrs." Assuming someone is married is hurtful if they're not - it's like buying something and the clerk saying "oh, is that for your mom?" when your mom's been dead for years.
I know I sound like I'm being supersensitive, but until my mom died I never realized how much people assume things and say things that can really upset others.