I must not have been as clear as I intended if people believe I was making guys out to be a-holes or even saying that guys pretend to like girls.
I don't believe that men pretend to like that much at all, it takes a lot of energy, we may just not like a woman as much/or in the way she wants us to.
Hear what someone is saying and watch what they are doing. If they say they like you, they most likely do. But if they don't want to take it to the next level they probably don't like that girl enough to give up whatever they perceive they would have to give up. Dating, in a fun, but not committed sense can be an end to itself.
I think there may be more honesty there than just falling into a committment because the other person wants you to, or gives you the time honored speech of "what we are we doing, are where are we going with this".
When you really like someone, you almost can't help yourself, you just really want to spend time with that person.
I agree that with Greeks it may be even harder because as a group we meet more people and have more opportunities for fun and distraction. I have seen many a relationship start because the people in question didn't meet many people, or have very much to do, so the relationship was easier to fall into because there were less options for other stuff.
The problem is that we would rather blame anything and everything than have to face the idea that someone might not like us that much or enough . . . its a sucky feeling.
When its happened to me, I haven't much liked it.
What KABillyMac said was good, shop around, stop practicing getting married with every relationship, and putting that kind of pressure on every relationship.
Sometimes its as much a gift when they won't commit, would you rather be in a relationship that is doomed because the other person doesn't like you enough to last the long run? That would be really playing with your feelings.
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James made all men sound like a bunch of a-holes which is pretty much true. Guys shouldn't pretend to like someone bc that really hurts a girls feelings in the end.
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