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I don't know about the rest of the country, but in Florida its a bit different I think. I think people here get married when they feel like they're ready, not when someone or some class of people says its acceptable. I know people who got married at 16, 17, 18 yrs old and are still happily married...some of them have children and some don't. They have successfull careers, nice houses, drive really nice cars and appear to be the model American family. I also know people who never married until they were 30 or so and by the time they reached 40 yrs old they've been married 3 times with 3 kids from 3 different dads. I think here people do it when they really want to. I agree that being set in your career and having a nice chunk of change before you marry is a good idea. However, I also think waiting that long and doing that could, at the same time, take some of the fun and memorable experiences you go through while young away from the two of you. Some of the funniest stories I hear from my parents are when they had nothing together, when they just started out and had basically nothing but good credit..like days when the two of them lived off of hamburger helper and chicken. I remember them telling me that T-bone steaks were considered a really special dinner...lol. I laugh so hard at times because I see where they are now and I cannot picture the two of them going through that. I think that if you go into it together while either of you isnt really well off, then money isnt an issue. If you don't really have a lot then there's no reason to fight over it.
I always said I'd marry before I turned 26, I just turned 25 and I don't see it happening within a year. As far as pressure goes, I think my mom is the only person pressuring me. Her mother, my olma, does it sometimes but not very often. All she does is bitch about me not having a German girl in mind to marry. She thinks I shouldn't mix outside our ethnic background (she'd have a heartattack if she knew where my dick has been). My mother pressures me because she wants grandchildren before she gets too old to play with them and do things with them, selfish reasons if you ask me. My father, on the other hand, tells me to wait awhile. He thinks the longer I wait the better. He's looking at it from a money aspect. He looks at it like this; first you get the money and then you get the ultra-hot breeder. Problem is, he has no problem with a guy being 35 and marrying a 25 yr old hottie. Personally, I don't want 10 yrs between me and the spouse. So, that leaves me thinking.....do it when you feel ready. If you wait till you have enough money then you'll never get married and have kids. I think things never go as planned in the game of life and you make the best of what is given to you. How you react to whats thrown your way determines the person you are, the same applies to marriage.
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