[KillarneyRose]

I believe that there are Southerners who honestly feel the Confederate flag is a symbol of their ancestors' heroism and pride and I also believe that some people, Southerners or not, associate it with White supremacy. I accept that there is one symbol, and two ways of looking at it.

I'll paraphrase the views of a dear friend who was born and raised in South Carolina. She once told me that, in her opinion, the Confederate flag is a symbol of her heritage and not of hatred. But she would never fly the flag because she knows not everyone agrees with her and she wouldn't want to make anyone else feel uncomfortable. "It's just common courtesy," she says.

That said, the girl was told that she wasn't allowed to wear the gown to the prom so she shouldn't have.