Hey, what is up with the very, skurry needs a new curl, permed out mullet, dude... That like went out in the Reagan administration...
Rainman, lets be honest, you want honey without the bees... You cain't be swangin' the hottest chick and you ain't flashin' major cash or looking "smoove, suave and deboner" (a husband euphemism). And it don't matta how clean you are, 'cuz there's some luser chick that lovvveddd them some former Miami Dolphins Ricky--had his kid, too...
You on the other hand, ain't swinging it like dat, dere... So, if you want the big ticketed, endowed women who wear 6 inch heels, you are gonna have to step it up a notch, or two... That's what I am talking about when I say taking risks...
You can be your inquisitive self as much as you want. But, if you ain't footin' the bill, then you can't go where the playas go..
Okey, I break it down like this to you. Mr. AKA_Monet, has a very terrible skin condition... His own boys call him "wolverine" from X-men... Along with that, he had acne even at his age--30-something. When he was a teen, he tried Retin-A. It never worked... Then I watched him and his skin care regimen. He was caring for his skin all wrong!!! So, a Mary Kay consultant and I organized a skin care maintenence regimen and I had to teach my husband how to care for his face... Within 3 months, he was clear of his bruising adult acne. When his mother came for a visit, she was amazed how clear his face looked... And now he can shave without breaking out in hives...
So, your problem is you either don't know what to do and need a caring female opinion that is not your mama's or auntie's. Or you want your hair full on matted--which is fine--but you reap what you sow... You ain't gonna get the one you look for if you refuse to take a risk and change a bit...