Originally posted by AKA_Monet
I don't think women are too picky... They just have their expectations, as they should. The higher the better. And I think that the expectations should be made known immediately. Most African American men appreciate that--they may not like it, but they like the directness for some reason...
Very true, AKAMonet.
I think it is hard to find a soulmate. A mate is easy to find. But one that you want to get along with for a long time, now that's difficult. For whatever reasons, most sistahs want a man to love them... A soulmate mostly... A nightstand, some do, some don't. And, one has to be opened to numerous possibilities to find that "special someone". That means you kiss frogs, often... And if the frog treats you well, then you will have baby tadpoles. But they will be yours...
Again, so true!
However, I don't think Rain man's assessment is to bash African American women here... I really think he's waiting for that special somebody to come into his life and "sweep" him off his feet--or rock his world (if you catch my drift). And he has practiced so much stand offishness over the years, that he is outta tune with the beat of a sistah that might be the "one he is searching for"...
BINGO! AKAMonet, you are batting 1000 here!
Many women here on GC confuse my constructive criticism with ______ bashing. Only a handful has successfully been able to discern the core messages I have been conveying in my posts, and from that, I have received great rapport from these individuals.
One thing women must understand about me is that I am NOT a politically correct person; I do not cater to egos, but I do cater to a person's character. That does not mean that I will not stroke someone's ego from time to time, but that is only after I have discerned the nature of your spirit and character and I am comfortable with you in such a way that I would not mind giving you an occasional ego boost, which I have done, albeit on a sparingly basis.
My un-PC nature is IMHO the real reason why I am not popular with a lot of women here on GC, but I am OK with that.
Here is a little known secret about me regarding the perm/mullet appearance: I would LOVE to be able to get rid of it for the woman I love. The thing about it is: Do you have the spirit and character that is so attractive to me, that it would make me WANT to get rid of it because my heart's desire is to please you? If you love my heart and character (the internal) as is, I would have no problems with working on my physical appearace (the external), b/c AFAIC the external is merely the icing (read: bonus) on an already excellent tasting cake, which I would be glad to perfect.
As it stands now, all the perm/mullet jokes and snide comments are merely encouraging me to keep it rather than discouraging me from keeping it. In other words, you can catch more flies with honey rather than with vinegar.
You just have to know those kinds of things about men... Sometimes they let anything come outta their mouths without thinking...
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