[orchid2]

MissOh2Cute has a point. Sometimes, these young women can be simply overwhelmed with this being their first experience away from home, and don't initially adjust as well as some others may. Most new member periods only last 6-8 weeks, and for some that is long enough to KNOW that you want to be initiated... for others it isn't.

Some girls are unsure and initiate anyway, because they feel that they would rather take a chance at sisterhood with a particular group than to drop out and not have anything at all. Some of these ambivalent women adjust, make the best of their situations, and eventually become stellar sorority members... others don't, and they remain unhappy. When that happens, they either deactivate, or remain in the sorority until graduation, still preferring what they DO have to not having anything at all....sadly.

I've seen it happen in all organizations on my campus and I do sympathize with these women... although they are WOMEN, when they get to college and rush they are usually somewhat naive, still in their late teens! Think of all the growing and changing we all do in the four years between entering and graduating from college.

I bet the reason this poster is AWOL is because she feels like she's been attacked. Not everyone who posts these kinds of threads has ulterior motives, and she was probably genuinely hoping that someone would understand her situation and reach out to her. How do we know it wasn't a GC regular (under a different name) in a crisis we aren't aware of?

*Edited to add:
There are others who have already stated their opinions on this thread who WILL disagree with me, but I feel that college *is* and *should be* a social experience and a wonderful time of growth, and if this girl feels that she cannot be happy without being in a greek org with a sufficient social outlet... where's the harm in transferring schools? Some people think it's tacky, but it's NOT like she's pledging at a smaller school with the sole intentions of transferring to a larger and more elite chapter that she never would've gotten into in the first place!

All chapters are different, and if it will make her happy to find a school with her sorority AND continue on with her program of study, there is nothing wrong with that! Those of us that look back fondly on our collegiate years should wish the same for others!