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Originally posted by Coramoor
I don't think there is anyone out there that 'can't help it'. That is just another excuse.
I have a friend that is way over weight. At least 400 lbs. He knows he is overweight and has asked various people help him come up with a work out routine and better eating habits.
He'll stick to them for about a week, then we'll catch him waking up at 7am to go to McDonalds for breakfast. Or he'll skip class and eat at the student union. And suddenly had has so much homework that he can't go to the gym anymore.
Excuses.
It's a bad cycle. People eat b/c they feel bad about themselves and they feel bad about themselves b/c they eat. Yet they don't have the will power to do anything about it.
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But it's NOT just willpower. The idea that skinny people have more willpower than fat people is ridiculous. Even the idea that people who eat well have more willpower than those who eat junk is stupid. The problem with Americans is that most of us don't see food as nourishment -- we have too many psychological issues tied to it. We see it as reward and the lack of it as punishment, we see it as something to comfort us, we see it as a way to quell feelings we don't want to deal with, we get food confused with our mama -- whatever. People who don't understand the emotional factors involved in eating will not usually be able to change their eating habits. I see food as a reward, which is why I learned to starve myself when I was unhappy. I'm damn good at starving myself but that doesn't mean I have ANY self-control when it comes to food. In fact, people telling me that they could never become anorexic because they didn't have enough willpower always threw me -- anorexia isn't ABOUT self-control. It was so easy for me to starve myself. What's hard is understanding the relationship I have with food and trying to be normal about it. The same goes for the other end of the spectrum -- eating too much. Until you understand what causes you to sneak out to McDonald's at 7 in the morning (hint: not a lack of willpower), you're not going to be able to lose weight.