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Originally posted by Rain Man
While I am still single, my "status" is rather ideal that IMHO I should be getting my pick of a woman. I am a seasoned professional in my career, homeowner, make a decent salary, God-worshiping, and TCBing.
Question: is it me or does it seem that foreign (read: African and Caribbean) women tend to gravitate toward me for friendships and relationships b/c their standards in a man isn't as stringent as an American woman's? No, for real. I have been dating Kenyans, Jamaicans, Bermudans, Malawians, Eritreans/Ethiopians and they all like my "plain" persona as a Black man.
It seems to me that while I prefer Black American women, I probably won't get one b/c in my experience, too many of them are too quick to put me in the "friend" zone b/c I don't meet their criteria of what they want in a man (yes, I am short--5' 6"). Whereas foreign women see me for who I am and accept it.
To make a long story short, do you really want a man, or do you want a living breathing fantasy?
PS: I may have to edit this b/c I asked 5 questions @ once. That's what happens when you are rambling...
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Rainman, sweetheart, you have to find someone that loves you for just you--just as you are...
Lemme be brutally honest with you: many women who post here find you unattractive without ever having seen you or interacted with you because you ask probing and difficult questions, which gets on their last nerve...
For foreign women, they may have a good command of the English language (if not their native tongue), but because of sheer differences in acculturation, their experiences vary from most women native to the U.S. Dare I say, it varies from state to state...
So when you ask these women questions, they really think about them for whatever reason. It is a part of their learning, a part of their epistemology, a part of the way they learn and grew up... I dunno, but that's the best I can give you, sweetheart...
For sistahs tho' (and you know that euphemism)--especially the educated ones who are the uber-professionals, they do not give a DAYUM about the "moon and the stars" you try to talk about--in fact they see it a picky, harassing, haranguing--rather than highly intelligent, inquisitive, knowledgeable, etc...
I KNOW this is what is going on, because before my illness, I would have written you off in a heartbeat--'cuz after a long, hard days work with bigotted caucasian men and women that you wanted to beat the shit out of, but couldn't because of workplace violence--I dayum sho did not want to justify myself, especially not to you...
But after my illness, when I was ALONE in the hospital without ANYBODY, I had to revise my understanding about caring people--especially men...
My husband is much like you--questions--he thrives on that kind of thing--it is a "survival tactic" in the field of work he's in... Sistahs need to understand that. So we debate, discuss, etc. and may disagree... But it took me to change my understanding of how you smart Black men really are to love y'all...
Beloved, you will soon meet the woman of your dreams... She will be everything you have ever hoped for... I cannot guarentee that there won't be trials and tribulations with any relationship, but I can say, you have to take risks sometimes...
Have a Blessed Holiday!!!