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Ghetto Superstar, that is what you are... Come away with me ... To another place...

In all seriousness, to all PNM's: sorority life is wonderful and fun, and we'd be very happy for you if you all join sororities.

BUT ...

As with all extracurriculars, some people are just a better fit for sororities than others. Before you go flaming me for that statement, also consider that some people are a better fit for the school newspaper, Student Government, the dance team, school choir, etc. All are worthwhile activities where you'll make wonderful friends. But you have to be right for the organization, and it has to be right for YOU. (You'll learn the same is true of a professional career-- if you're not a good fit with the people you work with, it doesn't matter how plush your office and 401K-- you still have to get up every morning and play with people who you view as challenging.)

The POINT: If you've gone into sorority recruitment a couple of times and it hasn't panned out, TRY ANOTHER ACTIVITY! If you're cut multiple times, take it as a sign to give something else a try. There's no shame in not being a member of a sorority. There's nothing wrong with you. Every chapter of every sorority varies. Seriously! (You might want to read the book "Maybe He's Just Not That Into You" and apply it to your sorority situation.)

You're in college to get an education. There are dozens of extracurriculars that will give you a sense of belonging and lifelong sisterhood. You don't need to transfer universities just to get into a sorority, nor do you need to beat yourself up over why you were cut from recruitment.

Throughout your life, you will experience both great joy and great rejection. Allow yourself to experience those full range of emotions and move on. Rejection hurts. But get up and get over it -- you have too many great gifts to share with the world. So get out there and discover your passion-- and be happy! Just quit beating yourself over the head, and badgering us for "why was I cut" scenarios. We don't know. No member of the sorority that cut you is going to tell you. So just have your cry, get over it and get on with your life. Carpe Diem!

ETA: Also take a step back before you go posting on GC. You're probably not a psycho, but somehow can come off that way when you ask the same question 37 times. So to be kind yet firm: Get over it offline or take the speculation to your best friends, who will while away the hours, pouring over your every move at recruitment. WE are not your best friends. We're an online community-- we shouldn't be your primary support.