Hmmmm, I can't say I have never missed or had mixed feelings for an ex, but I have been lucky in the sense that I have never had a relationship go sour before I was basically done with it. Which ofcouse means in some ways I would end the relationship because my behavior/attentions would change.
This usually happened after I recognized that the person didn't fit my idea of what I thought a partner needed to be for a healthy two-way relationship to exist.
Techniques that I have used involve unplugging my answering machine and phone for a while. That way I never have to agonize whether the person is going to call me or not, I took away their power to do so.
I avoid going to places I know they will be for a while.
I realize that going back to something that already hasn't worked is borderline insanity.
I hold the pathetic mirror up to myself periodically. Basically the pathetic mirror is an imaginary conversation you have to have with an unsympathetic no nonsense abrasive person to whom you are explaining your thoughts and actions . . . I use it to modify my behvior sometimes when I am about to do something unwise.
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