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First husband: He proposed after we dated for 3 years, but we met as sophomores in college, so his proposal came just before graduation, when he had money, and we were about to embark on our careers (logical timing). The engagement was more than a year and a half (he had proposed in September, we were graduating in December and wanted to marry in May, so we waited until the next May because we had to get jobs and then plan). The marriage lasted (drum roll) 14 months.
Second husband: We met in Feb. '91. We had been dating for 6 months when he decided it was time to look at rings. We looked at rings and he bought one in September '91. He held on to it until the following June '92. I had told my best friend at work that I was going to break things off because if he hadn't proposed by now, we just weren't right for each other. He let me go through the whole break up speech and then pulled my ring out of his pocket and said "What am I going to do with this then?". He was planning on proposing that night. We bought a house in October '92 (which I lived in) until our wedding the next August '93. That marriage lasted 7 years.
As you get older, I think it takes less time to know what you want and who is good for you. I can usually tell by the first date that there is something about him that I can't deal with. I wouldn't get married again no matter what the circumstance... I'd love one of those 30 years of dating relationships, but men at my age all seem to want to get married. (yes, that reverses over time!)
Dee
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