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Originally posted by XOMichelle
You all assume the worst of me don't you? I HAVE talked about it with him recently -- twice. The first time was a casual comment, and two days ago we addressed it directly, agreeing to remain friends. So far it's been working well, except I just get this feeling he thinks we might have a shot at a relationship. I think bringing it up directly again would be overkill, also it would make him feel uncomfortable. I just want to know what else there is I can do. For instance, are there subjects that should be avoided in conversation? I already don't really tell him about dates I go on and such (unless there is something particularly funny about it). What other signals can I use that won’t jeopardize our friendship? Right now I am just acting like I always do with friends. Is that ok? Should I try and put a little more space between us? I don't know.
ETA- Just as a background, this guy and I have been friends for almost 5 years. I never really got any feeling that he wanted to be anything more than friends until 3 months ago. I did consider dating him, and although it's not cut and dry, I don't think it would work.
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It's going to be awkward for a while, chances are that this was something that didn't just 'appear' 3 months ago and so he's going to need time to scale himself back. I'd suggest, uh, don't make out with him, or do anything remotely flirty? I guess that's all you can do, just keep it clear that there's no signals being sent (so thus none can be mixed).