Here is a paragraph from Susan Page's " If i'm so Wonderful Why Am i still Single?"
" By buying into the idea that we must lower our standards we perpetuate the belief that really good relationships don't exist. We all settle for less than wonderful partners and then get to look around and Say,"see I was right. There are no ideal relationships." Such reasonining does not serve anyone. It is pessimistic... It will ultimately result in a lowering of self-esteem bc after you put energy into a relationship the feeling" this is the best I could get" transforms slowly into " this is the most i deserve." ...Lowering your standards is impossible to do anyway. Your ideals and fantasies are what they are."You may tell yourself you have lowered your standards, but the real ones are always there-lurking somewhere in the backround."
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