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I mean isht, I flirt with guys at the bar, and I'll bet $$$ that the boy flirts with girls at the club.
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Guys - they're engaged to be married!?!? Married - like they are each others' decision makers in life, death, financial situations, etc. Do they have a wedding date picked out? Are these two people who should be starting a family - I don't mean with kids, but obviously they are on different pages when it comes to spending their free time.
It would seem that this guy doesn't go out to the club to flirt with other women and this girl makes a habit of flirting with other men. They are at a disconnect. I have a few friends engaged, from college and post-collgiate life and while I don't think there are 'engaged' behavior patterns, there are actions that a person who respects their relationship to another would not engage in. This guy trusts this girl - but does he know how touchy-feely she gets around others when drinking? Is his trust based on a full picture and understanding of her social behavior and how it makes others feel? And, on another note, this woman is not a very good friend or a sorority sister. Guy code - trust of sisters - if this guy is ready to stand in front of a priest, minister, rabbi, whatever and declare his heart, mind, finances, future, and health to this woman, he sure as better know how she might be during her bachlorette party.
I would not but my nose in if they were dating, even seriously dating. They are engaged - he took two months' of his salary or his savings or his family heirloom and gave it too her. If there is no progress, I would confront her finace with a co-ed group and ask him how comfortable he is with her social behavior. Why don't you talk to his friends and see what they think about her behavior?